How to Practice Self-Compassion (Without Feeling Selfish)

If self-compassion feels selfish, which it does for a lot of us, you are not doing it wrong, you're actually just human.

Hi. I'm Dr. Andrea Zorbas, a psychologist from Therapy Now SF. Self-compassion is often misunderstood as indulgence or avoidance, but in reality it's actually a powerful tool for growth. Let's talk about what self-compassion really is and how to practice it in everyday life.

So first off, self-compassion supports accountability. It helps you acknowledge mistakes without shame, which make changes more sustainable.

Next, harsh self-criticism backfires. So beating yourself up actually increases stress and avoidance. It doesn't motivate improvement, and that's a really common misconception.

Next, Compassion sounds like honesty plus care. So you can say things like

"This is hard"

and still take responsibility.

Lastly, small daily practices actually matter. Gentle self-talk, realistic expectations, and rest when needed, will build resilience over time.

So if being kinder to yourself feels difficult or uncomfortable, try contacting Therapy Now SF.

Therapy can help you build self-compassion that supports real lasting change.